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Welcome to
Colette Life Solutions
Do You Feel Lonely?
Whether You're in a Relationship or Not
Uncover how childhood attachment wounds and unmet emotional needs can shape your adult relationships, leaving you feeling disconnected
Even when you're not alone.
"Many clients share with me that they feel the pressure to be someone else in their relationships, unable to fully be themselves. If this resonates with you, you’re not alone".
Attachment-Informed Counselling and Coaching for Singles, Individuals in Relationships, and Parents
Attachment-informed therapy is based on the idea that the way we connect in adult relationships is shaped by our earliest bonds, especially with parents or caregivers. If those early relationships felt unsafe, inconsistent, or emotionally unavailable, we may carry those wounds into adulthood without realising it.
You might :
- Overthink every message or silence
- Struggle to trust others or yourself
- Feel too intense, too sensitive, or “too much” in love
- Long for closeness, but lose yourself in relationships
- Keep repeating painful patterns, even when you want something different
Attachment-informed therapy helps you explore the why beneath these patterns. It gives you a safe space to gently unpack the past, understand your emotional responses, and build new ways of relating with others, and with yourself.
Hello I'm Colette
Are you single, in a relationship, or parenting, and feel like you're treading water, struggling to stay afloat emotionally?
"You may be doing your best to keep everything together on the surface, but underneath, you feel disconnected, unseen, or unsure where to turn. Whether you're navigating break-ups, relationship patterns, or have stepped away from love entirely, therapy offers a space to come up for air—and begin to understand what's really going on beneath the surface"
In my experience, many people find it difficult to build, maintain, or create meaningful relationships. These challenges often include,
difficulty forming and sustaining connections, struggling with managing conflicts, or giving up on dating or developing close relationships
I understand how isolating this can feel. I offer a safe, supportive space to help you explore your emotional world, gain clarity, and build deeper, healthier connections with yourself and others.
💔 Going Through a Break-Up
Whether it’s a recent break-up, the end of a long-term relationship, or lingering pain from a past one, this space is for you.
You may be feeling heartbroken, anxious, or unsure who you are without the relationship.
🔁 Struggling in Relationships
If you find yourself:
- Repeating the same patterns
- People-pleasing or over-giving
- Struggling with boundaries
- Feeling disconnected, even when you're with someone
- You might be a parent and struggling to support them as you go through a crises in your relationship.
We can work together to explore where these patterns come from, often rooted in early life experiences, and begin to reshape how you relate to yourself and others
🧡 Single and Feeling Stuck
Maybe you’ve stopped dating.
Maybe you feel like
“it never works out.”
Or perhaps you wonder if healthy love is even possible for you.
You might tell yourself you’re fine being alone—but deep down, you long for connection. Therapy can help you explore where the shut-down began, reconnect with hope, and open up to love without losing yourself.
📍 Sessions Available In-Person & Online
I offer online sessions across the UK and face-to-face sessions in South West London
👉 Book a free 30-minute call to explore whether this support feels like the right fit for you.
Contact Us
Counselling
Types of Therapy I Offer
To Support Healing !
Long Term Psychotherapy
How Psychotherapy Can Help:
Emotional Support:
Express feelings like sadness, anger, or guilt in a safe space, while learning healthy ways to process them.
Coping Strategies:
Gain practical tools, such as mindfulness, to manage stress and stay grounded.
Breaking Negative Patterns:
Reflect on past relationships to identify and change unhelpful cycles.
Rebuilding Confidence:
Rediscover your strengths and rebuild self-esteem.
Managing Practical Challenges: While not offering legal advice, therapy can help you manage the emotional challenges that come with co-parenting and custody concerns.
Healing and Growth:
Therapy guides you through grief, boundary setting, and moving forward with clarity.
Long term psychotherapy may last from 6 months to years
Person-centred
How Person-Centred Therapy Can Support You.
Person-centred therapy offers a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your emotions at your own pace, empowering you to navigate this challenging time.
Unconditional Positive Regard: A supportive space where you can express emotions freely, feeling heard and understood.
Empathy and Listening:
Deep understanding helps you process complex emotions and find clarity.
Self-Exploration:
Gain insight into relationship patterns, fostering awareness and growth.
Empowerment:
Discover your own solutions, rebuilding confidence and control.
Healing Through Connection:
A trusting therapeutic relationship encourages emotional healing.
Coping with Grief and Loss:
Therapy provides space to process grief and find acceptance.
Person-centered therapy is flexible, lasting weeks or months depending on your needs and goals.
CBT
CBT helps you understand the connection between your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, offering practical strategies to promote healing.
Key Benefits:
Challenging Negative Thoughts:
Identify and replace unhelpful beliefs like "I'm not good enough" with more balanced perspectives.
Reframing Emotions:
Shift your mindset to see challenges as opportunities for growth.
Healthy Coping Strategies:
Learn tools like mindfulness and problem-solving to manage stress and overwhelming emotions.
Setting Positive Goals:
Focus on self-care, social connections, or co-parenting with realistic steps.
Building Confidence: Challenge self-doubt to boost resilience and self-esteem.
Improving Communication:
Develop skills for managing conflict and expressing your needs.
Managing Grief:
Process loss, regret, and acceptance to support emotional healing.
CBT is often a short-term therapy lasting 6 to 20 sessions, tailored to your individual progress and goals.
Other Therapies
Therapies to Support Your Healing and Growth
I draw on various therapies to help you understand yourself, manage emotions, and build healthier relationships.
Key Approaches:
Inner Child Work:
Connect with younger parts of yourself that may still carry hurt or fear, fostering healing and self-acceptance.
DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy):
Learn practical tools to manage intense emotions, improve communication, and build coping strategies.
EFIT (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy):
Explore emotions to better understand triggers, process past experiences, and strengthen relationships.
Transactional Analysis (TA)
to help clients understand their communication patterns and the roles they unconsciously adopt in relationships, such as the Parent, Adult, and Child states.
By combining these approaches, I offer tailored support to help you build emotional resilience, improve
Coaching
I Use NLP and Solution Focused Coaching to Support Clients To Move Forward In Their Lives !
NLP and Solution-Focused Coaching (SFC) are powerful tools for neurodivergent women to overcome relational challenges and build self-esteem.
NLP explores the connection between your thoughts, language, and behaviours, helping you understand and change how you think and communicate with yourself.
SFC focuses on creating positive, practical steps toward your goals. It helps you focus on solutions, rather than problems, and encourages you to identify strengths and resources you already have to move forward.
Skills Training
Using Mindfulness Can Help Clients Manage Their Emotions !
Mindfulness is a powerful tool for emotional regulation, helping you stay present and manage challenging emotions with ease. Here’s how it can help:
- Managing Emotions: Stay grounded during intense feelings like sadness, anger, or anxiety.
- Self-Compassion: Practice kindness toward yourself, easing guilt and self-criticism.
- Breaking Negative Thought Cycles: Focus on the present instead of dwelling on the past.
- Reducing Anxiety and Stress: Breathing exercises and meditation calm your nervous system.
- Improving Emotional Awareness: Process emotions thoughtfully, reducing overwhelm.
- Better Communication: Foster calm, respectful interactions, especially in challenging relationships.
- Fostering Acceptance: Move forward with strength by accepting what’s happened.
- Rebuilding Your Identity: Reconnect with your self-worth and feel grounded.
Mindfulness techniques are integrated into my approach to help you stay calm, present, and emotionally balanced.
Parenting Coaching
I Offer Parenting Coaching To Support Parents In Relationship Crises or After A Break-Up
Relationship challenges, like managing conflict, breakups or co-parenting struggles, or other parenting challenges for instance if your child is struggling to managing their emotions or you have lost control in how to manage behavioural struggles can all be overwhelming. I offer practical tools and emotional insight to support both you and your child during difficult times, we’ll explore:
🔹Helping Your Child Feel Secure : Meet their emotional needs and create a stable, safe environment.
🔹 Managing Conflict: Improve communication, reduce tension, and set boundaries to protect your child's wellbeing.
🔹 Building Emotional Awareness: Learn to manage difficult behaviors like tantrums or anxiety with understanding.
🔹 Co-Parenting Strategies: Improve routines, communication, and teamwork to support your child’s needs.
🔹 Managing Guilt or Self-Doubt: Process feelings of guilt and boost confidence in your parenting.
🔹 Strengthening Your Bond: Build a deeper emotional connection with your child, even in challenging times.
Parenting through relationship changes is tough, but with the right support, you can create a nurturing environment for both you and your child.
